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Grief Counselling

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What is Grief Counselling?

Grief counselling aims to help people cope with the physical, emotional, social, spiritual, and cognitive responses to loss. These experiences are commonly thought to be brought on by a loved person's death but may more broadly be understood as shaped by any significant life-altering loss (divorce, bankruptcy, death, or job loss).

Grief counselling provides work with their clients to help them find a healthy resolution to their loss. When the process of grieving is interrupted, for example, by the one who is grieving having to simultaneously deal with practical issues of survival or by their having to be the strong one who is striving to hold their family together, grief can remain unresolved and later resurface as an issue for counselling.

Everyone experiences and expresses grief in personally unique ways shaped by family background, culture, life experiences, personal values, and intrinsic beliefs.

What is Grief Counselling?

Grieving and Mourning

Grief is our natural response and private reaction to loss, and there is nothing unhealthy or problematic about the act of grieving. Grief is the feeling of wishing things would have ended differently, better, or less painfully.

Mourning is the process we go through to adapt to our loss. Emotional and physical experiences are clues that let us know we’re managing a loss that means something to us.

Approximately 40 percent of grieving people will struggle with anxiety in the first year following their loss. Grieving people find themselves crying unexpectedly, waking up with headaches, feeling emotionally numb, having trouble sleeping, eating too much or too little, and carrying around a weight of sadness all day.

Grieving and Mourning

The Counselling Session

Counselling sessions are typically held once a week for 60-minutes. Clients share personal feelings and thought in an open and supportive environment.

Counselling can be short-term (a few sessions), dealing with immediate issues, or long-term (months), dealing with long-standing and more complex issues.

The Counselling Session

Clues That You’re Grieving

These signs will give you a clue that you’re grieving, even if you’re not aware of it.

Physical Reactions

  • Being short of breath
  • Feeling very tired
  • Experiencing restlessness

Emotional Reactions

  • Feelings of shock, fear, anxiety, guilt, and anger
  • Blaming yourself or others for the loss

Mental Reactions

  • Feeling confused
  • Experiencing difficulties making decisions

Social Reactions

  • Avoiding other people
  • Overreacting or reacting strongly to others

Spiritual Reactions

  • Contemplating why pain and suffering exist
  • Asking the universe why the loss had to happen to you
Clues That You're Grieving

Why Counselling Might Be Right For You?

  • You’re just going through the motions of life. 
  • You’re tired of coping and want to feel like you’re thriving. 
  • Life feels way out of balance. 
  • Things are basically okay but you have the sense that something is missing. 
  • You wonder about the meaning of your life.
  • You want to create a new vision for your life, or you already have a vision but are having trouble fulfilling it.
  • You are bothered by fear and self-doubt.
  • You want to learn to feel confident.
Why Counselling?

The Grieving Process

What is Grief?

Grief can vary between individuals. However, there are still global trends in how people cope with loss. Psychologists and researchers have outlined various models of grief. Some of the most familiar models include the five stages of grief, the four mourning tasks, and the dual-process model. 

The Five Stages of Grief

In 1969, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross identified five linear stages of grief:

  1. Denial
  2. Anger
  3. Bargaining
  4. Depression
  5. Acceptance
The Grieving Process

Denial

Grieving Stage 1

Grief is an overwhelming emotion. It’s not unusual to respond to the intense and often sudden feelings by pretending the loss or change isn’t happening. Denying it gives you time to absorb the news and begin to process it more gradually. This is a common defence mechanism and helps numb you to the intensity of the situation.

As you move out of the denial stage, however, the emotions you’ve been hiding will begin to rise. You’ll be confronted with much sorrow you’ve denied. That is also part of the journey of grief, but it can be not easy.

Grieving Stage 1: Denial

Anger

Grieving Stage 2

Where denial may be considered a coping mechanism, anger is a masking effect. Anger is hiding many of the emotions and pain that you carry. You may find yourself redirecting your anger at other people, such as the person who died, your ex, or your old boss. You may even aim your anger at inanimate objects.

While your rational brain knows the object of your anger isn’t to blame, your feelings at that moment are too intense to feel that.

Anger may mask itself in feelings like bitterness or resentment. It may not be clear-cut fury or rage. Not everyone will experience this stage, and some may linger here. As the anger subsides, however, you may begin to think more rationally about what’s happening and feel the emotions you’ve been pushing aside.

Grieving Stage 2: Anger

Bargaining

Grieving Stage 3

During grief, you may feel vulnerable and helpless. In those moments of intense emotions, it’s not uncommon to look for ways to regain control or want to feel like you can affect an event's outcome. You may find yourself creating a lot of “what if” and “if only” statements in the bargaining stage of grief.

It’s also not uncommon for religious individuals to make a deal or promise to God or a higher power in return for healing or relief from the grief and pain. Bargaining is a line of defence against the emotions of grief. It helps you postpone the sadness, confusion, or hurt.

Grieving Stage 3: Bargaining

Depression

Grieving Stage 4

Depression may feel like a “quiet” stage of grief. In the early stages of loss, you may be running from the emotions, trying to stay a step ahead of them. By this point, however, you may be able to embrace and work through them more healthfully. You may also choose to isolate yourself from others to cope with the loss fully.

Like the other stages of grief, depression can be difficult and messy. It can feel overwhelming. You may feel foggy, heavy, and confused.

Depression may feel like the inevitable landing point of any loss. However, if you feel stuck here or can’t seem to move past this stage of grief, talk with a mental health expert. A counsellor can help you work through this period of coping.

Grieving Stage 4: Depression

Acceptance

Grieving Stage 5

Acceptance is not necessarily a happy or uplifting stage of grief. It doesn’t mean you’ve moved past the grief or loss. It does, however, mean that you’ve accepted it and have come to understand what it means in your life now.

You may feel very different in this stage. That’s entirely expected. You’ve had a major change in your life, and that upends the way you feel about many things. Look to acceptance as a way to see that there may be more good days than bad, but there may still be bad— and that’s okay.

Grieving Stage 5: Acceptance

The loss is never forgotten, but the grief survivor has more clarity, understanding and meaning. They have started the process of knowing themselves at a deeper level. Resiliency begins to surface, and they learn their inner strengths outweigh the loss. Their memories will live on and are a source of comfort and hope for the future.

Resiliency

Grieving is Unique to Each Person

Grieving is a process that’s unique to each individual. The immediate impulse of the grief survivor is to feel well quickly and make the feelings go away. This is a completely understandable and healthy reaction to difficult feelings. Sometimes the process feels like it’s taking too long, and at other times the grief survivor may question if they are doing it “right.” 

Grieving is Unique to Each Person

It is important to be gentle, patient, and compassionate with yourself while moving through this healing process. The ultimate goal of grieving is to live with loss without it controlling or disrupting your life. Loss is a vital part of the human experience and something we all share in common.

Grieving can bring us together, and you may even experience post-grief growth.

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